"Bass bassbasa" Campain
Egyptian men are known to flirt with anything that ends with "teh marboota". Regardless if you are beautiful or not, covered totally or partially, behave respectfully or not... anyways they will stare at you ,comment, give you a flying kiss (with that weired sound mmpo2!) ...and sometimes try to touch you.
We,GIRLS,WOMEN are fed up...we can't walk in the streets tranquilly anymore..nor can we take the bus without staying aware of hands crawling from the seat behind..nor can we shop in the mall without hearing stupid comments...nor can we...nor can we...
That's why I decided to make a summary of some good ideas people came up with regarding how to prevent men from "bassbassa w akhawatha"
Al tagriss:
Don' t let some 1 stares/bassbas at you without making a scandle for him, don't hesitate, It's easy and safe, the ball will be in your filed, be sure that he will get embarrssed. He will try to defend himslef...don't give him a chance and keep on yelling, "E7terem Nafsak, 3ib 3alik danta add geddi, ette2i Allah...etc"and be innovative in your phrases in order to irritate him. People will then gather around and he may be beaten....l mohem...try to make this day unforgettable for him.
We were in the egyptian musem and made up our mind that we will "negarrass" or make a scandle for the first one who will try 2 flirt. Honestly they were "aktar mel hamm 3al alb" but somtimes it happened while crossing the street, or tahrir Square"wa ma adraka ma al tahrir Square" so we couldn't react, L mohem...It happened when we were getting out of the musem...a "3asskari" told my friend Hoda "ih el gamal da while moving his eyebrows", and he was the victim!!...wasla men el ze3iiii2 wel bahdala:" e7terem nafsak,..ma3andaksh ekhwat banat..elakh elakh". After, Hoda told the 3aqiid (the boss of he 3asskari) about him...he called him shouting "come here shoes,-Ta3ala hena ya gazma! mesh zayy ekhwatak dool!?", and all of sudden, slapped him in his face (man, it was very strong!)
We were sorry for the 3assakari who was humiliated in front of all his collegues and tourists who were stopping to watch us...but we hoped that it would be a lesson for him.
High tech Tagriss
In Abu dhabi, there is "shortett al Tagriss": the one who will be caught flirting or annoying a girl for the second time, will be scandeled. They will publish his name, pictures and personal info in the newspapers and on the internet hopefully that this metgarras guy will never flirt again.
Here is an extract from the article published in 20at
أما "التجريس" الجديد الذي توعدت به شرطة أبو ظبي كل من يتم ضبطه للمرة الثانية وهو يعاكس الفتيات، فهو مختلف تماماً، هو تجريس" عصري تستخدم فيه وسائل الإتصال والفضائيات والتكنولوجيا الحديثة.حيث يتم نشر صورة المعاكس وبياناته الشخصية في جميع وسائل الإعلام المختلفة، كالفضائيات والصحف والإنترنت، وذلك لتحذير الفتيات من ذلك الشاب (الألعُبان) إذا قابلوه في أحد الشوارع أو المراكز التجارية أو الحدائق العامة
وقد نشرت الشرطة مؤخراً بياناً يحذر كل من تسول له نفسه بالإقدام على معاكسة الفتيات أو التحرش بهن، بتوقيع تلك العقوبة عليه ليكون عبرة وعظة لكل المعاكسين أمثاله.
Moreover,
ذكر تقرير إخباري أن وزارة الداخلية في دولة الإمارات العربية المتحدة تتجه إلى تشديد العقوبات على المعاكسين في
محاولة للتصدي لهذه الظاهرة. وقالت صحيفة (البيان) إن العقوبات الجديدة تتضمن سجن المعاكسين من المواطنين والمقيمين شهرا كاملافي حالة المعاكسة للمرة الاولى، وفي حال تكرارها تفرض غرامة قدرها 60 ألف درهم مع السجن لمدةعام
Kefaya Bassbasa, كفايه بصبصه
Another reaction to be mentioned, is this logo published by Tantawi, another outraged... If u like it, print it and post it everywhere.
A final idea I would like to present is that suggested by Alaa. Eventhough I'm not with these kinds of rude reactions, I will copy paste a part of the idea( I appologize for some gross words)
لو كل واحدة فينا أول ما راجل يتحرش بيها تقوم تخصيه
و نفضل نعمل الموضوع ده بانتظام و مين غير ما نفوت ولا فرصة، بعد شوية الخبر هينتشر و الرجالة هتحرص على نفسها و اللي مش هيحرص على نفسه مش هيقدر يخلف. و بعدين بما أننا في عصر ما بعد الحداثة بقترح أنك..بابرة تريكوه مسنونة، أصلك لو استخدمتي خنجر مثلا هيقوللك الستات استرجلت و الكلام الحقير ده كله، انما لما نستخدم واحدة من رموز الأنوثة التقليدية، التريكوه اللي البنت المؤدبة اللي بتلبس فساتين بكرانيش و تقعد ضامة رجليها بتتدرب عليه، التريكوه اللي الواحدة بتعمله و هي مستنية يجيلها العيل، التريكوه اللي هو مصير الست اللي خلاص بطلت تخلف، التريكوه اللي محتاج وقت كتييييير لدرجة أنك لازم تبقى ست بيت.
بالذمة مش تبقى تفكيكية صايعة لما تستخدمي ابرة التريكوه بتاع ست البيت، في أنك .. أي حيوان يفكر يتحرش بيكي. و هيبقى التحرش الجنسي حاجة كده تاريخية بيحكوا عنها زي وأد البنات و الزايدة الدودية. و بعد كام جيل كمان هتنتقل من التاريخ لقصص الخيال العلمي.
Eventhough this could be an exaggerated idea, it may inspire you. Personnaly, it reminded me when I was in school and I used to walk to my home, I always had a stone in my bag, and I was deciding with myslef that if someone attemps to offense me, I will threaten him by the stone or furthermore I will beat him with it ( but nothing ever happened!!)
So it is a call for "boys/men" to stop bassbasa or I can name it formally "ghad al basar", and for girls/women ,to defend themselves against any sexual assault.
posted by dawyomeldonya @ 2:52 PM
6 Comments:
At 7:41 AM,
HANY said…
DEAR SIS, happy feast , allah bless all ur days & may ur days be real feasts
i wrote a post about this called " kelmet el ser " hope u read it and tell me ur opinion coz this kelmet el ser which i found in mostadrak el 7akem works with me like magic hope u find it too
accept all my regards
At 5:16 PM,
لحظة صدق said…
I want to tell you honstly that i read only abstracts of every paragraph
clealy
it is every girl's wish to make a scandle "tagrees" for any one dares to say a bad coomment or try to uncover her shyness by any actionyou know sometimes in general streets you find yourself running ,zigzaging or just trmbling all the way long
you know that fear that makes you wish to carry a a knife or even a bistole in your bag or even imagine yourelf a kongfoo girl till you realize you are in egypt
you are in reality
well no one is afraid of allah
even though you are desent hijab and wide clothes
with all those psychiatrically disordered people
with all those schizophrenic cases dismissed from hospitals
with even the police officers or the usual soldiers infront of the moderiat el 2amn every where in egypt just raising their voices with nonsense
trust me a scandle is useless
i gaurentee that some will be a scandle addict who collects the more numbre of scandles
trust me it is only allah
who can change that
people here rarely know allah realy
will do any thing for a moment of fun
of happiness
tell me if i am wrong
it is areligious matter and i like U.A.E the very great idea of managing this nut i doubt if it can work here
i realy doubt
At 5:32 PM,
dawyomeldonya said…
لحظة صدق **
Every time I try to propose a solution for any problem, people just reply me back...MAFISH FAYDA..Y?!! Egyptian pple are not that bad...they just want a push to behave well..I'll give u a small descriptive example...we went to clean the streets in Cairo..pple said we r crazy..because Egyptian pple is dirty!! but when we talked with pple in streets we found out that YES they litter and rarely drop garbage in tanks..but in their minds they like property, they like to have clean streets, they are just LAZY or GOT USED TO..but after talking with them they promised us they won't litter, some of them took gloves and came to clean with us,,,,So there is alwaus hope..but change takes time, and we have to START to REACH even if slowly
At 3:13 PM,
Abla said…
Hmmm…I found your article about "basbasa" amusing, I like the comic relief that you include in articles... I can also really relate to what you're saying, about how walking on the streets could become uncomfortable for you simply because guys think that it’s o.k. to harass any x-chromosome creature passing by (but to be faire I think that usually happens in ghettos or in poor areas)... I was once even walking next to my dad and still some guys did not hesitate to say flirty comments...ok maybe because dad was one step ahead of me so he did not notice what the guys said (because they usually whisper it as they pass by)
It really got on my nerves how other women (my girl cousins or aunts) would blame the flirting on me, saying it's my fault, that guys harass me because they can tell I'm not from here, that I dress “Canadian” or that its because I do not wear the veil or what ever...but B.S., I'm no different than any other Egyptian girl, like you said: no matter what a girl wears or looks like she will be harassed. Its just that some people find it easier to blame the woman than to blame the guy (patriarchal society, hint-hint) Also, some guys flirt or harass women as a means to make them feel insecure and hesitant as they walk the streets (power trip for men with low self esteem).... So people say that women dressed provocatively and thus contribute to ruining society, I agree (so there: I no longer sound like the man-hating feminist :-P ). I agree that women such as Rouby and Nancy 3ajram ruin society by dancing like strippers on TV in the morning during which all humans of different ages can watch them dancing suggestively while singing words such as "boos el wawa ya7.."
Society downfall is definitely not any fault of the average Egyptian female citizen whether she's modestly veiled or with a veil on her head but with tons of make up on laughing loudly with her eyes hunting for attention with a long yet tight skirt and tight top, or the girl who's not veiled and trendy or just wearing plane jeans, jacket and a shirt (nothing special there).....o.k., so some girls dress sluty and overdo it...but if here in Canada, the country where alcohol, homosexuality, and perversion on T.V is very commonly accepted and even encouraged by some, a sluty girl walks in the street and isn’t harassed, if men in such a country do not behave as animals when seeing a half naked woman....then why can't the 50% of Egyptian men country control themselves???????? (keep in mind that Egypt is an overall religiously conscientious country be it the individual is a Muslim or a Christian, we all have the same overall moral values) and please, do not tell me "ma7roomeen"..if God ordered men to control themselves it's because they can and because they are humans with moral values, not animals....Yes, I still have faith in the fact that Egyptian men who flirt have some humanity in them still and can actually improve upon themselves and treat women with respect. I used to be proud knowing that throughout history, be it in Pharonic times, or now with Egyptians being a mix or Muslims and Christians, that Egyptians have always been religiously conscientious and morally apt people no matter what religion they choose to follow...but now...It seems that for some moral values have gone out the window for some reason…
tell me, during your parents generation, in Egypt during the 60's and 70's, allot of Egyptian women walked around in short skirts (above the knee, not done nowadays) yet they were never harassed....then why now, even though Egypt as a whole is in a more “religiously conscientious” phase, the harassment rate has increased????????? I think it's because more people now are hypocrites. (I say that with great regret) They only pretend to be more religiously conscientious so they'd look good in front of others yet they do not take the real meaning of their actions to heart. They should be reminded that religion consists of two parts: How you worship God and how you treat others. God has given his followers guidelines on how to do both parts, but some do one part and leave the other. I’ll give you an example about Islam because I’m a Muslim and that’s what I know the most: Islam consists of 2 parts : the 5 pillars of Islam, and the mo3aamala (how u treat others)
Examples of Egyptian hypocrisy:
A married 40 yr old man with kids, prays, fasts, mesha3*al Koran fel dokkana 3ando, merabee da2no, yet undresses every female passer by with his eyes
A pious woman who just can’t stop talking behind her neighbors backs and spreading bad rumors about them and causing problems
A man who goes to Friday Prayer without having even preformed wodoo2 because he’s too lazy but at the same time he wants others to see him pray
Ok, back to the topic about harassment...some guys say "Chicks dig being flirted with and harassed, they love the attention, el banat bet7eb keda"
I say : " 7abak borrs we saba3a 7*ors u arrogant man"....some men can be such arrogant losers and I think that’s also part of the problem…men think what ever they do is ok and good and any bad consequences are the woman’s fault
Ok, sorry for the long comment, I think I went a bit off topic but here are my last words:
If our society’s people focus on looking religious and good on the outside then moral problems will be hard to detect on the inside because they are hidden by hypocrisy (men bara halla halla we men gowa ye3lam Allah) These moral problems are like the rust eating a steel bar (our society) and suddenly that steel bar will fail because of the rust..But we cannot see the rust on the steel in advance and take the rust off because the rusty steel bar is covered with epoxy and paint (epoxy and paint is the hypocrisy and pretentiousness that people in our society use)
I used the above analogy because in civil engineering (I’m a civil engineering student by the way), they used to coat steel bars with epoxy to prevent oxygen to get in contact with steel and rust it and make it weaker....but sometimes if by accident there is a teenee-tiny, hole in the epoxy coating, oxygen can enter and reach the steel bar and rust it, and no one will be able to find out about the rust because it is hidden under the epoxy…and the steel bar fails suddenly and without warning.....
Ahem…AANYWAYS, enough with the nerd talk…my solution to this Egyptian social problem (which I’m pretty sure is present in other societies) is the following:
1. stop putting crap on our television (no half naked women dancing on T.V. at 1. p.m., wee yareet parents control what their kids watch on satellite T.V.too...I personally have no satellite or cable,..waste of time and money…and I've seen so many boys as young as 12 yrs old waste their life in front of the TV staring at Shakira's butt…yup, what a great way for them to see that women are butt-shaking objects, because that’s how their young minds will interpret it)
The pen is mightier than the sword but the media is even stronger, it can either educate people or brain wash people into believe in certain misconceptions, the Egyptian media must be selective in what it shows the Egyptian people : (we have so many music channels yet very little informative news such as CNN about what going on in the world…could it be that our government wants it’s people to be lulled by vicious topics such as music, cook shows, and soccer games, and not look at where our nation is going and not think or use our brains or have a say at anything while corruption eats at our governments foundation and steals our tax money??)
I still have faith that someday things will change and Insha2 Allah be isn Allah the effects of the good actions from good people will over-power the bad effects of evil doers
At 9:08 AM,
sha3noona said…
موضوع جميل بجد
وعايزه اقول ان الكبت مش سبب
وكلام عبله صحيح انا سمعت تعليقات
كتيره بتلقي اللوم علي البنات
يقولك اصل همه بيلبسوا لبس خليع , اصل هم مش محترمات وكلام كتيييييييير من العينه دي
ودي نتيجه طبيعيه في ظل المجتمع الذكوري اللي احنا عايشين فيه
المشكله لها عدة ابعاد
لكن المسئوليه الكبري تقع علي وزارة الداخليه في التعامل مع هذه الكارثه
At 11:35 AM,
أسوور said…
المسئولية تقع علينا احنا .. البنات
احنا اللى بنسكت
احنا اللى بنسيبهم ونمشى واحنا موطيين راسنا ونكمل طريقنا ونعمل ان مفيش حاجة حصلت لحد ما الموضوع زاد واستفحل وبرضه لسة بوطى راسنا ونكمل الطريق
وما اكذبش عليكوا انا برضه كنت بأعمل كدة زى كل البنات لحد ما فى يوم مقدرتش اوطى واكمل الطريق
اتصلت بالنجدة وجت فعلا
ودى فرصة أحيى الملازم أول مهاب الشبوكشى اللى اتعامل مع الموضوع زى اى جريمة ولم يسفه من التهمة
حررت محضر .. ووكلت محامى .. ومصرة اكمل للنهاية
مع العلم ان عشرات المحامين تطوعوا لتولى القضية بدون مقابل
عدة منظمات حقوقية تحارب التحرش تطوعت لتبنى الموضوع قانونيا واعلاميا كمان
ليه بقى خايفين وبصراحة كدة .. كام واحدة بتعمل دة؟
الإحصائيات بتقول ان 86% من الاناث بيتعرضوا للتحرش فى مصر وان 2% منهم بس بيبلغوا
تخيلوا؟؟؟
يبقى اللوم يقع على مين؟؟؟؟
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